My last post was about all the good parts of 2016, and I’m not going to write about all the shit times in 2016 because optimism is key and optimism is free my beautiful butterflies of the world.
I learned a lot in 2016. I learned that you have the ability and tenacity to begin again, even when you feel like you don’t have the energy to. I learned that loving yourself is essential to your emotional/mental/metaphysical/spiritual/physical well being. As silly as it sounds, up until this year I kind of felt like self love was a complete crock of shit, but it totally isn’t. I REPEAT IT TOTALLY ISN’T. You have to love yourself and support yourself every single second of every single day the same way you would someone you feel the deepest amount of love for. You have to feel that deep amount of love for yourself. And you have to believe it. You can tell yourself you love yourself over and over, but it doesn’t mean much unless you actually believe it. I’m still working on that part.
I also learned that you will always need people. As much as you don’t want to. As much as you think you can go it alone. As much as you think you can do it by yourself. You absolutely can’t. I can firmly say that I would not be here typing this without the support of people who love and genuinely care about me. It is okay to need people, you always will. But you can’t depend solely on other people for anything. You must find it within yourself. You have to be brave AND strong. You have to want to get through whatever it is you are going through.
I hope 2016 brought you some insight into what you need to do differently in 2017 to make it a better year. If you haven’t quite reflected or begun to, here’s some questions that might prompt some of that good good.
- What are some things you don’t mind leaving in 2016?
- What are some things you will take with you into 2017?
- What is something you still want to work on in 2017?
- What could you have done differently in 2016?
- What do you know now that you wish you would have known 364 days ago?
Another topic that people like to talk about at the turn of the year are New Year’s resolutions. And if I’m being honest I think they are complete and utter bullshit. Don’t get me wrong, it is wonderful to have goals, but these “resolutions” are way off track. They need to be smaller than goals for the entire year. That’s way too broad. You will end up abandoning most if not all of your New Year’s resolutions by March (if not earlier). They also have to be specific, not just I’m going to eat healthier or spend less money. Thus, I am not making any “resolutions.” Youtuber and mental health coach Kati Morton has a great video about New Year’s Resolutions. Check it out here.
Finally, I want to thank each and every person who reads this blog. This blog just started as a tiny idea and without your support it would not be what it is today. Thank you for giving me a place to share my soul. Thank you for making me feel like my words have meaning to someone other than myself. THANK YOU. I’m hoping to expand this blog even more in 2017, so stay tuned. All my love. Happy 2017 to you all!