Sometimes we have friends who completely suck the life out of us and make us feel drained, and sometimes we have friends who lift us up and give us life. I’ve had my fair share of both. But as I get older it has become more and more apparent to me how important it is to have the latter.
Going back to how we expend energy and how we live with intention, it is so important to have a strong support system around you. It is so important to surround yourself with people who make you better. With people who make you laugh. With people who challenge you. With people who cause others to see all of your bright and shiny.
Two of my best friends on the planet came to visit me this weekend, and now that they’ve gone home, I realize how incredibly lucky I am to have people that bring so much joy to my life right in front of me. And it makes me think back on all the time I wasted trying to be friends with people who don’t inspire me. Or don’t push me to be better. Or don’t value my time. It is just that, a waste.
It is incredibly hard to choose your friends. It is incredibly hard to break up with friends. But you have to know that there are people out there who will make you a better person and that the people you are surrounding yourself with, these toxic people, are not them. If your friends don’t make you laugh and be yourself completely and bounce ideas off of them, they aren’t your friends.
I’m not saying throw all of your friends who don’t do that out the window, but make sure that you are spending your time and surrounding yourself with people who make you feel alive. When others can see you through their eyes the world is different for just a second.
Cherish your friends. Hold them tight. Let them know that you love them. Challenge them. Give them your attention fully. Make them laugh. Root for them. Pick them up when they’re down. Lift them up. Remind them how amazing they are. Show them that your life means more with them in it.